Friday, May 3, 2013

The Power of Pauses

Okay, here’s the problem, flat out: GUYS….RUSH…THEIR….WORDS!!!

Why do guys do this?
You’ll usually notice this at the Approach Stage. A guy sees a beautiful girl that he wants to approach. Before he goes over to talk to her, he has a rush of emotions, but most importantly, thoughts in his head that he wants to verbalize. He wants to make sure that he gets it all out of his system and verbalized to her, but instead of it coming out in a steady flow, it comes out rushed. The reason being is because more likely than not, he is Nervous.

It is commonly known that when people in general are nervous, they tend to speak at a faster rate than normal. It’s actually a very subtle thing to take note of, personally. I know first hand because I’ve witnessed the affects that it had on my game. Once I was aware that I was speaking to fast and that I had to forcefully & consciously slow down my speech, I began to improve the way women interacted with me.

Why is it a problem?

Yeah, you got everything out of your “chest” that you wanted to say to her, but the problem is that you said it so fast that she didn’t have time to process everything that you said. To her, it just came out as some nervous mumbo-jumbo! She truly didn’t get the message that you are trying to portray.
You have to give her time to process everything. Slow it down, give each thought room to be freely expressed and absorbed by her.

Why is it so powerful?

This is very powerful because you create a sense of suspense. The woman is clinging on to every word you say because you haven’t said it yet. Your thought hasn’t been fully expressed. It is hardwired in our heads that it’s rude to cut someone off without letting them complete their thought. She doesn’t see herself as rude so she will subconsciously investing energy, time, and focus on to your next words.

When you combine it with great eye contact, dominant/confident body language and a little flirting, you my friend have created SEXUAL TENSION.

Try it out for your self; say this line at your normal pace:

“Hi, I know this is a bit random, but I saw you walking by and I just had to stop you to say that you are beautiful.”

-now, say it with pauses:

“Hi, [pause] I know this is a bit random,[pause] but I saw you walking by [pause] and I  had to stop you [pause] just to say [pause] that you are beautiful.”

-does the last one sound sincere? Does it sound more confident? Does it sound like it’s coming from someone who is comfortable with expressing his thoughts? Does it sound sexy as hell? Yes!


Monday, April 22, 2013

Healthy is Sexy

When I say “Healthy”, I mean in the sense of both Physical & Mental. A lot of guys acknowledge the physical aspect, but neglect the mental aspect. The Goal is to align both aspects of your life.

There is a study that says that being Healthy is Sexy. I know that we don’t need a study to tell us that being physically fit is sexy because it’s pretty obvious, but not enough guys realize the importance of being mentally fit.

Women are Instinctively attracted to physically healthy guys; it goes back since the beginning of recorded history. Women wanted to ensure their safety and the safety of their future off-spring, which is why they searched for healthy, strong, fit men who were capable of protecting her, giving her a safe shelter and providing food.

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

NYC experience my Free Dating Program (April & May '13)

What's up guys?

Im excited to announce that for a limited time i'm offering my Class on "Improving Your Game with Women" for Free, But only for guys who are Serious about getting their dating life handled.

In my class, i go over the basics on how to approach a woman and then i take guys out with me in the field to get hands-on experience talking to women. You'll Increase your confidence, You'll have the competence, You'll get great conversations, phone numbers, and even set up dates...

All FREE of charge. $0
*you must be in the New York City Area

Here's the link to my class:

(i will do 4 Free Classes, so if there are no seats left at the current class, then put my class on your watchlist so that you can be the first to sign up for the next free class)

also, email me if you have any questions:


Wednesday, April 10, 2013

When is the Best Time to Call?

I am asked this question a lot. It’s such a common concern; The guy gets the phone number, he’s eager to call, but he doesn’t want to seem desperate. So here’s a few things to consider that might help you out.

The first thing is to keep the mentality of “I’m a busy guy, my time is valuable. She’s a busy girl, her time is valuable”…if you think this way and portray it, a lot of this will make sense.

I’ll give you some short answers, and then I’ll explain.

-Is it better to call or text?

At first, Text.

-Ok, So When?

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

How to make a Date Fun and Exciting

If you read my previous post about creating a Sense of Adventure, then you know that now you have to live up to the hype.

You are promising this girl a Fun, Special, Cool, Adventurous night full of surprises. Seems kind of hard to do right? Well, not really, in fact, when you compare to what normal people do then it will be easy to pull off.

Think about it for a sec, what do normal people do on dates? They go somewhere to eat or get a drink, and then they “Tell” the other person about themselves and vice versa; Creating an Interview-ish flow to the interaction.

BORING!!! It’s been done over and over again.

So what do you do?